How men classify women
To be successful in dating, you have to understand how men think. They think very differently from women. They follow a linear train of thought and tend to be more rational than emotional. They classify things to help organize their thoughts. One of the things that men categorize is women.
For most men, every woman falls into one of four categories: caretaker, friend, fling, or ugghh!
She’s a keeper if she has traits he’s looking for in a partner. While this could include a variety of things, many men appreciate women with a sense of humor and self-confidence. For some men, physical attractiveness is very important, while others look inside. Everyone has their own ideas about what is attractive too.
She’s a friend if she doesn’t turn him on. He may think she’s cool and enjoys her company, but he doesn’t see himself getting intimate with her. Tomboys often fall into this category. Being “one of the boys” is a good way to make sure that you’ll always only be friends with the guy you like. In general, men prefer feminine women. While you don’t have to prance around like Paris Hilton, you may want to start wearing a bit of makeup and more flattering clothes. Stop smoking, swearing and drinking beer. Sit like a lady. Don’t tell off-color jokes. If you start to change in these little ways, men will start to notice you.
She’s a fling if he thinks she’s hot but doesn’t like her personality. A good way to be categorized as an affair is to dress provocatively. While we are encouraged by the media to dress this way, it really is a bad idea. While men think scantily clad women are attractive, they don’t think of these women as potential partners, just one-night stands. To avoid being judged easy, dress conservatively and don’t respond to any sexual gestures. Many men will try, just to see what you will do. And if you get intimate too quickly, then it becomes an affair.
It will fall into the “ugghh” category if he is simply not satisfied with her. Certain physical characteristics, such as weight or body features, turn some men off. There isn’t much you can do about it. I do not suggest going through drastic measures to change your appearance in order to get a man. The right man will love you for who you are, not what you look like. There are also certain behaviors that can land you in the ugghh category, and these include: acting like a diva, whining, being mean, swearing, getting drunk, using illicit drugs, and smoking.
Of course, your goal should be to become a goalkeeper. Don’t try too hard, though, or you’ll appear desperate and end up in the fling category. While I agree that you should “be yourself,” I challenge you to grow in ways that make you a more desirable partner. If you’ve had one disastrous relationship after another, look at your habits and determine which ones are keeping you from getting the right man. Then make changes and you are sure to find the perfect man sooner or later.
